A lot of time people face the same marriage pitfalls. Every couple in a marriage, whether they have been married a long time or not, must be very active in ensuring their marriage remains fresh and interactive. Many couples find it so easy to mind the affairs of others and to give time to other things in contrast to their partners. Nonetheless, it is possible to avoid destructive marriage pitfalls and to put things right on track.
Once the honeymoon phase of your marriage is over, you start to notice little things about your spouse that you may not have noticed. These things can begin to drive you a little crazy, especially if you did not live together before the wedding. These types of situations are normal and very rarely need outside intervention as long as you and your spouse discuss your issues openly and are willing to work on the problems.
Just like it is on every sphere of life, the issue of finance is a huge one, even in marriage. At some point newlyweds have to address issues to do with the household money. Whether you have married at 22 or 55, you will find yourself having to share the wrath of foreclosure history, student loans, commitment to child support and credit card debt or bringing all these issues to your new bride or groom. There is no romance in matters finance. It is the elephant in the room that must be addressed or it will strain your marriage just when things should be getting better.
Most of us, when we think about the "getting married/name change" process think about a bride taking on her partner's last name and leaving her own maiden name behind. This is because, for a long time, that is the way that it worked almost everywhere. If Sophia Jones was marrying Jessie Smith, her new name was going to be Sophia Smith. No muss, no fuss.
Years ago a married couple needed to have a joint account, share and use credit cards as a couple, and also have a joint mortgage with their names. As time has gone by, things have become a little complicated as man and his wife are now working and their income sources are not usually the same. Also, people are now getting married much older and financially established before they're married and merging finances once they have married becomes a complicated issue.
So you are finally engaged and are in the process of making decisions revolving around your big, special day. You have decided on a venue, a caterer, a cake, your colors and the menu. Your fiance is waiting on you to tell you how many groomsmen he needs. Uh-oh, this can really present a problem, especially if you have a bunch of friends and you are close to all of them. The last thing you really want to do is hurt someone's feelings or lose a friendship.
Getting married for most people is the happiest day of their lives, until debt is added to the equation. Debt can destroy a marriage and leave the remaining pieces on the floor. To ensure that your marriage is all that it can be, and stays that way, there are a few things that can be done. Before you get married, consider your finances from a "debt perspective."
After going through the hectic activities of preparing for your wedding and making it a memorable event, it is only fair that the two of you have your own enjoyable moments somewhere nice. However, the important question is, how should this place be? Or where should it be? The moment you answer these questions, your honeymoon will be worth the memories.
No one likes dealing with in-laws if they are insensitive, intrusive, and outright rude. Your mother-in-law gripes about the way you wear your hair or your father-in-law just gripes in general. Dealing with your rude in-laws, unfortunately, is something you are going to have to adjust to. Because, like it or not, you did not just marry your husband, but you married his entire family.
So you are in line to go to paradise by plane and… what? The employee is starting to look at you weird when they see that your airline ticket and passport does not have the same name posted on them. Next you are taken to an office and questioned by a scary tall looking official. The thought of paradise fades into the horizon as your life turns into a nightmare. Okay, Okay… that is the worst case scenario, but problems can arise if your name does not match your passport. If you plan to travel, you need those names to match.