If there's an issue so critical such as whether a woman will take her husband's last name after marriage, it's holding onto the last name or making a decision to drop it off after divorce. It's an issue that most divorced folks talk about especially if the man keeps on complaining that the ex-wife has stuck to the name and has refused to drop it off even after remarrying.
Chances are that the two divorcees might not be seeing eye to eye and apart from discussing their kids, if any; communication is minimized across the board. The man might end up being irritated that the ex-wife is still using his name. Just like anything about divorce being legal the question in most people's minds is whether there are guidelines about this.
However, this does not stop at the divorce level. There are men who might be wondering why the women they have married have refused to drop their last name from a previous marriage. While it might not seem right to some men, sticking to a last name does not really mean the woman is holding on to hopes of remarrying her ex. Love is not involved in keeping a last name or even a maiden name, in particular if an acrimonious divorce was involved. There are newlyweds who are deeply in love but decide to maintain their own names for all kinds of reasons and deeply happy divorcees who refuse to drop their ex's last names for all kinds of reasons.
It is worth noting that after divorce you cannot force an ex-wife to drop her last name except perhaps politely requesting her to do it. Whatever she decides is no longer your business.
As such, there are many reasons you might choose to keep your married name after divorce.
Consistent identity
If a woman keeps the last name of her ex she came to hate and reminds her of a painful part of her past life it must be really worth it. Maintaining a consistent identity is one of the reasons why women justify holding on to the ex's last name. If people had known the woman by that name for over a decade, it makes every sense to stick on to it. At the same time, it's possible that all the academic papers, such as degrees and diplomas earned while still married, were provided with the last name. It is also clear that, professionally, clients and business contacts might be knowing you as Mrs. X and dropping that might bring another whole set of complications.
For instance, Tina Turner in 1975 refused to change her last name after establishing herself, career-wise, with the last name of her husband and keeping it after 13 years of marriage made a lot of sense. Some women believe their time in a past marriage, their investment and input has earned them the name and must be kept.
Children
Children are perhaps the main reason why any mother will maintain a last name after divorce. Any broken marriage that has children might compel the mother to maintain the last name of an ex or a dead husband. Most women cite their children as the reason why they still hold on to the last name since it means they will have the same name as their kids. For some mothers, even a new child in the new marriage ends up with a hyphenated surname combining the last name of the ex with the last name of the new baby's father. At the end of the day, everyone ends up with the last name of the ex.
Changing the last name back is a hassle
Women who have divorced and would like to have a sense of their own identity and forget the man who brought a lot of pain in their lives simply seek to have the last name dropped. However, it becomes clear the hassle involved in changing everything is a tall order, potentially expensive and a long process, especially if changing her maiden name and transforming other items to reflect her married status took a lot of trouble and money.
It means that if you decide to revert to your maiden name you have to remove the last name from your banking information, driver's license, social security card, passport and any other document with the ex's last name. If anyone has gone through this before the reality of going through it again might be reason enough to stick with the ex's last name.
Prestigious name
It goes without saying, a prestigious name is just that, prestigious! If you were married to the Kennedy's, Presley's or any Royal family you already know you have a famous name that can open many doors. It is an esteemed name with a lot of benefits and dropping it off for a normal name that doesn't click anything in the mind once mentioned might not seem very wise. This is why women who have been married to famous people, celebrities, kings, millionaires and presidents among others might not let the name go.
Business reasons
At times, married couples establish so many business relationships using the last name of the husband. Since no one can foresee a future where both of them are separated, it seems logical to support such a decision where the family name establishes businesses. However, in case of a divorce, it makes a lot of sense to maintain the last name of the ex if an established company that has reverted to the ex-wife bears his last name. Companies would lose their standing and good business damaged if the name were to be changed. At the same time, if the customers and business partners know the ex-wife better with the last name of the ex-husband, it makes a lot of sense to maintain that name.
Impossible to let go of former lives
There are times when the woman is not the one who asked for a divorce. She might find it hard for various reasons to just let the last name of the ex go. Chances are she might be emotionally attached and still have feelings for the ex and since no one really knows the future, she might decide to stick with it.
There are cases where the divorce was done in an honest and kind manner and both parties were friendly right through the emotionally wrecking process. At such a case, it might be hard for the woman who did not go through a spiteful separation to just drop her last name, especially if the ex was considerate enough to end the marriage with more than she bargained for.
Fun, unique and exciting
Women have been found to keep their ex's last name for all kinds of reasons. Some women claim that going to their maiden name is a no-no because they did not like their father's to begin with, particularly those whose dads were estranged, drunkards and always absent in virtually all their lives. To such women, the ex's last name is a better prospect, particularly if the divorce was not rancorous. The ex's last name can also be unique, exotic and more fun.
Your last name as the first name
At times, even if you want to change the last name circumstances might force you to stick with it. Apart from keeping the last name for the sake of the kids, business or how exotic and fun it sounds, there are those who might have another reason. For example, a woman in the military may find it easier to stick to their last name because the first name is the last name. You are known by your last name and it's your identity. Dropping it might mean changing your life completely yet unless you leave the military and the country, your colleagues in the military may always refer to you by your last name.
No matter the reason you have for sticking with your ex's last name, it is your right under the law. There are also places where you have to indicate in a divorce decree whether you are keeping the married name or not.
Hi I was married for ten years and am divorced for 30 years I kept my exs last name because of professional licenses I am getting married to another woman who is divorced and kept her married name because of children can I take her exs last name since she kept it
Hi Tracee. Yes, you can.
what would be the benefit to changing my last name to my husband's after he's already asked for a divorce? The name had not been changed after 8 years of marriage, but after a divorce was in the works I was told I should take his last name. I use it publicly on social media but haven't established anything else in that name.
Hi Khristine. The only benefit would be if it satisfies your personal preference. Otherwise, it'll be more work to change it than to keep your current name as-is.
My elderly stepmother remarried after my husbands Dad died. Her marraige certificate has her new married name on it but she did not change any legal document..drivers license, SS card, trust accounts. etc. She recently had to divorce this man she was married to for 10 yrs. What is her legal name since nothing was changed? She lives in New Mexico and we are having to get our Real ID requirements up to date. Will this be a problem and what is her legal name??
Hi LaVonne. It's whatever her name was prior to her last marriage.
Personally I have been divorced for 8 years now and I remarried 3 years ago. I still have my ex's last name, I never "legally" took my new husband's last name due to having a young child with the ex. I wanted that child and his teachers to be able to connect the two. But now, that ex is remarrying and I feel odd about keeping the name still. My son is 11 years old and I am thinking about still keeping it but hyphenating my husband's last name. Then again a part of me says my son is old enough and it's ok to change to my husband's last name.
My question is this, is it hard to change from a hyphenated name to just one last name at a later time?
Hi Alice. It's not hard. You'll just have to go through a court petitioned name change for a follow-up name change.
I have a kind of interesting situation. I was divorced and on my divorce decree it does state that I had intentions of taking back my maiden name. I however, did not go to the social security office to change it. I am getting remarried and I am taking his last name and my SSN has my ex's last name but all of my identification is under my maiden name. Will I have any issues with getting remarried if I have all of my other paperwork such as BC and divorce decree? I live in HI!
Hi Grace. No, you shouldn't face any problems.
My husband's ex wife took her maiden name back after they divorced.We found out just recently that she still uses my husband's last name, even though we have in writing (divorce degree) that she restored her name back to her maiden name… My question is, is this legal? Can she really still use our name? She even gave her daughter our name, and blamed the hospital on it… I just don't know, something doesn't seem right about this situation.
* I forgot to mention that she used different names at different times… Our last name, her maiden name and also her last ex husband's name ( she's actually going through another divorce right now).
Yes, it is legal. A divorce decree order restoring a prior name isn't a command, it's an option. She doesn't have to follow through to change it for real if she doesn't want to.
Something doesn't seem right to me about the fact that you think she has something that exclusively belongs to you and your husband. The fact of the matter is that it became her own name the minute she legally changed it in the first place. So she didn't give her daughter "your" name; she gave her daughter her own name. She may or may not have changed it legally after the divorce, which requires applying for new documents from the government (a divorce decree is just the document that permits you to do it). But either way, unless she's engaging in identity fraud against you, what she does with her name after divorcing your husband isn't even any of his business.
My current husband's ex wife still using his last name and recently got married. My question is since I just changed my name will all benefits belong to me or is she entitled to something?
Hi Tracie. Name usage doesn't have any affect on benefits. It's marital status that counts.
I am filing for my divorce on my own. Due to work related issues and a child I do not feel the need to change my name back to my maiden name. However on the paperwork drawn up for me the line item is listed as:
14. NAME CHANGE
I ask the Court to change my name back to the name I had before my marriage
How can I re-word it so that there is no request for a name change. Any help would be appreciated.
Hi Michelle. Saying you want a name change on your divorce papers doesn't obligate you to follow through. It just gives you the option. If you specify that you want to go back to your maiden but never do, that's fine. If you don't specify it and later do want to return to your maiden, then you've likely locked yourself out of that option through use of the divorce decree.
My wife kept her husband's last name as she likes it better than her maiden name and also because she shares the name with her daughter, I know she has no "love" feelings for her ex. With that said, it does make me feel a little strange that she kept his name. I just look at is as something I need to get over. It's my deal not hers and I totally get her reasoning. But, yeah…my insecurities creep in and it does bug me sometimes. Haha. And I'm 45. What the hell? Sigh.
Hi Brad. Thanks for sharing your perspective.
Am a divorce woman.. Can I file or bring my new spouse that is living outside, U. S with my ex husband last name… Because am still using my ex last name.. Can I change the last name to my new spouse last name before filing him to U. S
Hi Mercy. You can change your name to your spouse once you've acquired a certified copy of your marriage record.
I am divorced and kept my ex husbands last name. I didn't ask to be restored to my maiden name in the decree. I am getting remarried and want to use my maiden name on my new marriage license. Will that cause me any problems getting my new married name put on all my legal documents, i.e. Social Security card, etc.?
On your marriage license application, where it asks you to specify your name, you must put your current legal name and not a prior name. Using your ex's name wouldn't prevent you from changing your surname to your spouse's.
Hi. My divorce was final in January. In the papers I elected to restore my maiden name. However, when I remarried in March I hadn't changed my name back yet on drivers license etc so used old married name on marriage application. For the name change field on marriage application I didn't put anything (though my maiden name is mentioned in maiden name field).
My question: can I still use divorce decree to change back to maiden name and if I do will I have an issue proving that I'm married to my new spouse? Hope this makes sense.
Yes, you can still use it.
No, it wouldn't be a problem. They're unrelated issues.
My wife was court ordered. How can I make her change it
Hi Tony. Unless it was a part of the settlement agreement, there's not much you can do to compel the name change.
Does anyone have the experience of going through a divorce and being able to add their maiden name to their children's middle names to ease any confusion about parentage?
Hi DrK. You'd typically have to go to court and the other parent may have to agree to the change in writing.
My husband is going through a horrible custody cause. we are raising his daughter . she is remarried now and still uses Arrao.. if she has a new drivers license under her married name is this illegal that she is still using Arrao in court and other legal things
Hi Karen. It depends on if she's trying to commit fraud or evade debt. It's also not clear which is her legal name. You say she has it changed on her driver's license, but what about her social security card? Some people have name mismatches with the SSA and DMV, where they update one but delay updating the other. If the SSA still has her maiden name, then it would make sense for her to continue using it.
Please help,
I've been separated from my chronically abusive spouse for five years now and within these years I've gotten my master's degree still bearing his name (this is of course without his support). There is a child from the marriage which he has constantly rejected as being his own so as to avoid any kind of support from him and this child (boy)is bearing his name too.,my confusion and question is, can I change both my name and that of the child to my own name or should both of us bear my maiden name..
Hi Nony. It's up to you how you choose to change your name and your child's. It's whichever you prefer.
Nony that is a very good choice on your behalf … especially given the fact that this man was abusive and rejex his own child why would you want to be reminded daily of that man and his last name associated with you and your life this is exactly one of the reasons why the maiden name should revert back as the original name once a divorce happens. My ex-wife was a Flander that cheater and abusive we had three beautiful children a beautiful home a beautiful life. When I chose to divorce her because she would not change. I believe it is a slap in my face for her to continue on using the marital name I have sensed used a different name for myself just because I feel tarnished by her flaunting my name…
Hello I was just divorced August ,23, 2016 and on the divorce I asked to change my name but now I want to stay with my marriage name because of my daughter she likes that we have the same last name she already went through mm and dad separating I don't want to take this away. Can I keep my married name if on divorce papers say ok to change it or do I have to go back to court and say I want to keep it? Or just leave it alone?
You don't have to change it. You don't have to return to court. You can leave your name untouched.
Personally I think the person that wrote this article is ignorant. I don't care what the argument is I believe when a man marries a woman and the woman in marriage accept his proposal and is granted his last name that is sacred that is entailed in marriage. I think especially after divorce when they do not see eye-to-eye and they have grown apart and decide to separate that they're definitely should be a separation of the last name that was granted two his wife. I don't care what the argument is a woman should not be able to keep the married name regardless if they have children or not. The children are apart of the father but the ex-wife is no longer apart of the ex-husband. This should be common law that after divorce the name of the ex-wife returns to her maiden name. I believe there is still a connection left open when the ex-wife is allowed to carry on the marital name this should be illegal and considered as a counterfeit illusion and a fake name at that point.
I totally agree with you daniel r luna.
Hello,
I've been divorced almost 30 years, and like some of the comments, I kept it so I would have the same name as my daughter. I always said I'd change it back to my maiden name once she got married. She's not married yet, but I have a feeling it will happen in the next couple of years.
Petitioning the court for a name change was mentioned a couple of times so I'm assuming that's what I need to do. If so, will I have to show divorce papers/ proof that I'm divorced?
Thank you
No, you will not have to show proof of divorce.
I went through a divorce and legally went back to my maiden name. I own and operate a business in my married name and elected to continue working under that name. I changed everything license, passport, etc and now I am struggling with needing to use two names and would rather have the married name back for personal and professional. Am I able to change my name back to the married name legally if I elect to do so?
Yes, you can legally return to your previously married name.
I have kept my ex's name so I will have the same last name as my children. Now that my children are older, my youngest in college, I have decided to change my name to my maiden name. I changed my name first at SS then to DMV and my professional license. Little did I know that I still have a lot to change, banks, insurance companies, some professional docs, mortgage, life insurance, liability insurance, car insurance, loans….etc..etc. I now regret that I started this process. Can i revert everything and change my name back to my ex-husbands's name? I am known in my industry as Dr M, and M___ being my ex's last name. It will be difficult for everyone to identify me with my maiden name. Is it possible to go back to using my ex's name? go back to SS, DMV and professional license? I need help please…
Yes, you can reverse the name change process, but you'll have to obtain a court order first. The government institutions you cited will need such a document to change your name again.
hi, I was married back in europe and came with my husband in united states. Later we got divorced, but I did my divorce back home where i was married at. Cheaper that way. Its been 15 yrs since then and due to kids I kept his last name. Now i like to change it to my maiden. Since my divorce is from another country and I live in US, how can I change my last name? i do have it in english copy and noterized from back home. What do i do to start the process? thank you
Hi Nina. If your divorce certificate contains an order to restore your maiden name, then you can use it. Otherwise, you'll have to petition the court for a general adult name change.
So I was married before and changed my name. When I divorced I never changed my name back since it was easier not going through those motions.
I am now engaged again and for my new marriage I would like to use my maiden name till I take my new husband name. What documents do I need to change and what can I wait till I get married?
Could I just get social security and license changed? Then hold off on notifying my job as well as bank and credit cards?
I am getting married next September and I realized I need to get this in the works well beforehand.
Thank you
If your divorce decree includes an order restoring your maiden name, then use it to change your name with the SSA, DMV, etc. If it contains no such order, you must petition the court for a name change.
I have been married twice..so obviously divorced once and looks like I will be going through another. Can I go back to my last name from my first marriage?
Hi Sevans. During the divorce proceedings request the judge restore your preferred prior name.
my husband and i were together for 14 years then we separated (not legal) i went to work but i used my maiden name for 35 years but my ss card has my married name on it and ss has my work history under my married name can i change my name back to my maiden name name before i collect my ss my husband has since died and we never shared anything in the 32 years we were apart
Hi Ann. You will have to petition the court for the SSA to change your name back to your maiden.
I will be married for 7 years this June. I haven't changed my name on some of my documents like my social security card, or DL but everything else has been changed this day one. My question is when I change my name will it be counted for the 7yrs that I have been married or treated as the date it was changed. I'm from IL please help
From the date it was changed. No backdating.
So please answer me this. What if the new boyfriend is just unsettled with her retaining the last name of her husband since they have been divorced 8 years and he's remarried. They have kids together and now they are teenagers. It can't be as easy as well its my daughters last name.
Hi Dan. Ultimately, it's her choice to maintain the name or revert to a prior. There's been cases of spouses and spouses' spouses upset over their ex maintaining their surname, even when the divorce decree granted an order restoring a prior name. There's no recourse for them. If the person doesn't want to change their name, there's not much that can be done to compel them.
hi I got divorced and still used my husbands last name, i on my passport, And Dl, now I’m getting married again and would like to change to my current husbands last name. What do I need to do? Do I need to provide paper work stating that I was divorced, and never changed my last name or would my current marriage certificat which was issued outside the United States work to change my passport and Dl to my new name
Hi Dana. You don't need to reference your divorce papers. Your foreign marriage certificate is sufficient.
Thank you for your response, my marriage certificate is not the original as I was married outside the United States and the certificate is not in English, however I have a copy translated in English and notarized, would this be accepted, if not, what do I need to do? My husband is outside the United States and not a citizen.
Hi Dana. If your foreign marriage certificate is a certified copy, you're good to go.
My ex wife told me she lost my last name, because I didn’t document that she could keep it.
Hi Cody. I don't know what you mean by this. Please clarify.
I divorced my ex in 2006 and hyphenated using maiden-ex's name because i had two young kids and it would be easier having the same last name. Now my youngest is in his last year of high school and I want to remove the -Ex name. It is my legal name on all my documents (I think…) I know my bank accounts, w-2's, social security, license and passport are all in that name.
How do I go about dropping the hyphen legally? Do I just need my birth certificate and the divorce decree or will the birth certificate alone do the trick since I'm hyphenated?
Thank you!
If your divorce decree includes an order dropping your ex's last name, then that's the only document you'll need. If it includes no such order, you'll have to petition the court to drop the name.
Thank you. I'll have to check my divorce decree… haven't looked at it in years!
I came in the US thru Fiancé Visa and married my bf in Cali. We’re in the process of divorcing now after 10 yrs of marriage. I have all my documents under his last name like my very first SS card, US passport and DL. He wants me not to keep his last name after divorce. I have 2 children from my previous marriage from abroad, and they acquired citizenship through me. If I change my name, will it affect my children’s US passport once we’re renewing them since I’m having a different name? I established my identity in the US using my husband’s last name. It would be a pain for me to change my name after divorce. Please advice me. Thank you.
No, it will not affect them.
I moved to the US in 2007 and married an American citizen and took his last name. In 2012 we divorced and the judge asked me what name I want after the divorce; I said I will revert back to my maiden name so the divorce decree says that the maiden name is restored to me. After a little while I realized what a hassle would be o go through the name change process and chose to keep the married name. The issue is that now I want to register my marriage and divorce in my home country so I can obtain an ID with my married name but they want the divorce decree to say that I can keep the married name? What should I do? All my documents here were never changed to my maiden name.
Hi Adina.
You have a few ways to go:
1. You can contact the court and ask that your divorce decree be amended, but that's unlikely to be accepted.
2. You can obtain a court ordered name change, which would override your divorce decree.
3. You can explain that the restoration of your maiden name on the divorce decree was legally nonbinding and that your legal name is still your married name.
Can a person Ugo back to a last name they have no document for? Example I'm adopted I'm getting a divorce, can I go back to my name before I was adopted or do I have to use my adopted name which I have a birth certificate for. My name before I was adopted I have no birth certificate.
Hi Barbara. During your divorce proceedings, you can request the judge restore your name before adoption. It's no guarantee it'll be accepted, especially without supporting documentation.
If the judge denies your request, you'll have to petition the court for a name change, which doesn't require supporting documents.
Barbara, I’m in a similar situation as you. I was adopted and given a made up birth certificate with the adoptive name. Then I married/divorced and kept that last name and now I’m divorcing again. That’s four names! I’m planning to offer my adoption papers as supporting documentation to go back to my birth name. I think it’s a slim chance but definitely worth a try! Otherwise I will just petition the court for a name change after the divorce.
Do I have to change my last name back to my madien name when I get divorced or can I keep my married name forever? Tennessee laws
You do not have to change it. You can keep your married name as long as you prefer.
You can still ask the judge to restore your maiden name or a prior name in the divorce decree, but you don't have to actually change it. Having it there will give you the option to change it if you later have a change of heart.
I was hoping to get an answer because I haven't been able to get ahold of my lawyer and it's now the weekend. If I just had my divorce finalized on the 24th of march 2018 and when the judge asked me whether I wanted to keep my ex-husband's last name or take my maiden name back, I said I wanted to go back to my maiden last name. When he told my kids that I was going to have a different last name then them, they were very upset. After a lot of thought I want to keep his last name. Since I haven't even received any papers on the divorce, can I still change my mind and keep it legally? If it matters it is in the state of Ohio. Please and thank you for any help.
An order in your divorce decree restoring your maiden name simply gives you the option to revert if you so chose. It's not automatic. Do nothing, and your current name stays the same.
Down the road, if you want to return to your maiden name, you can use your divorce decree to do it instead of having to petition the court.
I am divorced and still has my ex last name. I am about to remarry and would like to have my maiden name on the marriage certificate. Is this possible? After marriage, I plan to change my last name to my second husband's last name.
Hi Mary. It varies by state. Some will permit you to return to your maiden name or a previous surname.
Amarie
I am divorce I kept my ex last name
Now, I am remarried, I would like to know can I still keep my ex last name, and my current husband name as well? Reason being all of my certification high school Diploma and BA degree is in my ex last name. Also my DL and SS, Passport, will it be a problem if I leave every thing the way it is or do I ofto change them all to my current husband last name
You can hyphenate, if that's what you're suggesting.
You can leave them unchanged.
I'm divorce but still have my birth maiden- and my ex name I want to get married again can I drop my ex name and add my present husband or do I of to do paper work before getting married and after married. I just want to do my IDs once..
Hi Keneisha. You can make the change at once after your upcoming marriage.
my husband passed away and i would like to use only my madien name, all the info i have read is about divorce and some just crazy on how to do it. is there an easy way to change a name?
Hi Ellen. No, there isn't an easier way. You'd have to petition the court to return to your maiden name.
Hello,
I was divorced 10 years ago but kept his last name, did not change it back to maiden. Now I'm trying to get married, at the courthouse they asked me for a certified copy of divorce decree, it says I have to change my last name back to maiden one. Do I need to change the name to maiden and then apply for marriage license, then change to new last name again? or Can I proceed to only change it once after new marriage?
No, you do not.
Yes.
I was married for 15 years legally changed my maiden name to my married name. I have now been divorced almost 3 years. I took my maiden name back legally through the divorce. I now want to go back to my ex husbands last name. Is there anyway to do that? I already changed everything to my maiden name but wish I didn’t for numerous reasons. so can I take back my ex husbands name even though I legally already went back to my maiden name?
You'll have to head to court and file a petition for a regular adult name change.
Hello group I have a question that someone mite to answer for me. Four months I got divorce and it was somewhat peaceful. Ten was a relationship and ten married and one of the reasons the was a divorce she is on the loose side. Now I have asked a lot of people and the law says she doesn't have to but I was reading something on the internet where if she fight you she can pay me money every month for using my name. Is this true of BS
I don't understand what you're saying here. Fight you how?
I wanna keep my current married last name while I legally add my new husband’s name. Is this possible? I live in Jacksonville and discussed with a divorce lawyer, but I keep asking professionals because I was not satisfied.
Hi Ken. That shouldn't be a problem.
I have ben divorced for almost 2 years now and I am wanting to change my last name back to my maiden last name how can I do that since I have been divorced for going on two years?
Hi Jen. If your divorce decree has an order restoring your maiden name, use that document to change your name. If no such order exists, you'll have to obtain a court order.
I am in the process of getting divorces, and the decree will restore my maiden name. Do I have to go through the process to change everything immediately? Or, can I wait for as long as I want?
You can wait for as long as you want. After the court grants you the order to restore your maiden name, it's not concerned about whether or not you ultimately go through with it.
My divorce became final last week I requested to go back to my maiden name and is granted on the decree now after thinking about it all the pain to change back to my maiden name Im thinking about just keeping my married name but the decree is final and the maiden name is official do I have to change everything or can I say to heck with it and keep my married name
You don't have to change anything. Your divorce decree simply provides you the option to go back to your maiden name, if you so choose.
If you're sticking with your married name, file your decree away and forget about it. If you later reconsider and want to return to your maiden name, the option remains available.
I was married 33yrs ago and taken on my ex's last name. Now I am engaged to someone and they want me to change my name back to my maiden name before we marry. Is this fair for me to go through the hassle of me changing my name?
No one can force you to change your name. It's your decision to do so or not. If you do decide to go forward with restoring your maiden name, you can only use your divorce decree as a mechanism if it contains an order to restore your maiden name. If it contains no such line, you must petition the court.
Hi I divorced in March, I requested my name be restored back to my maiden name. The judge did grant this but do I actually have to switch back or can I keep my married name? As stated it is a pain to change your name!!!
Thanks
Alisha
No, you can skip it.
Thank you so much I did not want to go through all the hassle of changing it. So do I keep it as it was when I was married or first,maiden,married?
I have a question. I divorced my ex but never changed my last name after the divorce because of the inconvenience of change all my documents and I was using his last name for more than 10?years. But now I’m getting married next year and I don’t know what last name I have to use for the ceremony and my new marriage certificate. My current last name ( my ex last name) or my last name previous married.
Please help!!!
Hi Sulma. When you fill out your marriage application, put down your current legal name. If there's a spot available to specify a new name post-marriage, put your new preferred name.
I have been married two times I've never carried second hubby name I've always carried. My firs husband name everything is in his last name .I called as the other day and they have me under my second name. How do I get it back to the name I've used since I've been 16? Can I go to the small court house in my town and do it? What do I need top get this done ?
Hi Louise. If you're talking about changing your name through court, which court you file in varies by state. Which state are you a resident of?
Hi! I had a divorce last 2015 and requested for my name to change it back to my maiden name. But since then, I have not change or still use my married name in my IDs, account. I am now applying for citizenship and would like to know if my legal name would be of that in the divorce decree or what i am still using. thank you!
What you're still using, considering you never legally switched back to your maiden name.
First of all, thank you for keeping up with this conversation! I will be going through the divorce process soon. I do not want my ex last name or my maiden name. Is it ok to use another? It is my step fathers but he never legally adopted me.
You can request it from the judge, but it's unlikely. Name change via divorce is meant to restore a former name. You'll likely be told to separately petition the proper court for a new name.
I got divorced a couple of years ago and the decree says my name would go back to previous legal name. My passport is still in my ex’s last name. I also have global entry with ex’s last name. It is now time to renew my passport. Can i renew and keep under my ex’s last name to prevent hassle of changing global entry too? I rather not change the name back.
Yes, you can maintain the status quo.
My situation is totally different, I am filing for divorce now but, during my marriage, I had changed my First Name. Do they allow me to keep my new First name and Maiden last name? Or I have to change to the name I had before I was married?
Name change during divorce wouldn't affect your first name. You would be able to keep it unchanged. You can request your last name be returned to your maiden name or any prior legal surname.
My fiance asked for his name back as part of the divorce and his wife agreed and signed it on the divorce papers. She is now refusing to change her name. What can be done about this?
Nothing really. Your fiance's ex-wife can't be compelled to change her name.
My fiance kept her ex husbands last name. We are applying for a marriage license. Is she required to use her current legal name with her ex husbands last name? Or can she use her maiden name on the marriage license?
When the application asks for her name, it's referring to her current legal name. Some applications may ask for any prior name, but that would be a separate field.
I asked the courts to change my name after my divorce and now I want to keep it because of my kids. Can I do that? Do I have to go back to court to change my statement?
Yes. Just do nothing and nothing changes.
No, you don't have to go back to court. You're not obligated to change your name just because you obtained a court order to do so. It simply gave you the option to. It's nonbinding.
Hello, I've been divorced over ten years and have kept the married name because of children and a professional license. Now my children are (mostly) grown. One is married and the other is in college. And I'm about to get another professional license in another field, which I believe will be permanent.
I'm unsure of whether to change my name because to my maiden name for the new license, it leave it as is and be stuck with the ex's last name for my child's sake for 2-3 more years.
Or can I leave the ex's name on the old license, do, etc. and put my maiden name on the new (work-related) license?
This is more of a moral dilemma than anything. Please help!
First, you have to decide if you're going to formally change your name. It appears that your legal name is not your maiden name. You wouldn't be able to update your license until you decide what to do here.
If you do decide to change, whatever entity issues your professional license may want to be notified. Depending on your profession, this may be mandatory or at least highly recommended. Whether they require your license be reissued in your new name varies.
I am getting a Divorce after 15 years of marriage to my 2nd husband But i am engaged and getting married in a few months.I asked the judge 4 me 2 go back 2 my maden name but my 13 year old little girl dont want me 2.so i dont half 2 change my license and ssi several times ( when she grants me my Divorce next month can i Change my name 2 my soon 2 be husbands last name so i dont half 2 do the changes several times?He wants me 2 have his last name and not my soon 2 be X husbands when we get married.
Asking that the judge includes this keeps your options open. You don't have to change it for real.
No, only a prior last name. When you get married again, your marriage certificate is what you'll use to change your name, not your divorce decree.
Hi, I divorced my exhubby in 1995 in Nevada, but in January 2018, I received a certified letter stating that he’s divorcing me from NYC now.
I’ve since called his attorney telling him this is a mistake, but unfortunately I don’t have the divorce decree anymore nor can it be found in the county clerks office.
So here we are today where I’ve received the divorce papers stating that I can have my maiden name restored, which is what I want now since our daughter is an adult.
Even thou I know I was divorced before, can I use today’s divorce decree to get my mainden name back without having to pay to have it changed now?
TIA!
County clerk? Have you tried the court clerk?
Probably. If whichever institution your changing your name with isn't aware of your divorce history, your most recent divorce decree may be taken at face value.
I was legally divorced in the state of Texas last year. I never did change my name back to my maiden name and prefer not too, however I am curious to find out if there is a way to change my last name to something completely different.
It would have to be by court petition.
My bf has been "seperated" not legally for 15 yr now about a month ago he decided to go on with divorce process. His ex dicided to keep the last name out of spite and don't want another woman to have the name there children are grown with kids of there own. In the state of IN can she be entitled to anything or is the name useless?
That is her prerogative. She's not obligated or required to change it.
I have a question, say the judge said I could go back to my maiden name & I signed to get it changed but now I want to keep his last name but the judge already signed for me to change it back to my maiden name. Do I have to or can I just keep his last name ??
You don't have to commit to the name change. The judge authorizing the change simply gives you the option to do so.
Hi there: I was contemplating changing my last night back after divorce. However i'm trying to think differently about it. For instance. My name will tell a story right, and i'm still a winner right? Yes and Yes again.
Furthermore, my 2 very young children already know we're not with their father anymore, so why confuse and add insult to injury. And this is what took the cake for me, so to speak. There;s a whisper of "your going backwards further into your past, back skipping back "the middle" to your birth name" So I will not be embarrassed, angry, bitter or ashamed, nor will I place over-blaming. Besides… the reality of the matter was! "it took 2 to tangle". *But don't stop dancing; just learn new moves and keep dancing.*
To sum all that up: Continue on; in forward motion progressions. While being very sure to console and motivate your children so they will make better perception choices; than you earlier self! Amen and Good Day.
Thanks for sharing your perspective LadyRo.
I just received my divorce decree and decided to take my surname back. I already made the changes after receiving the court order. Will I still qualify to receive my X spouse social security after a 40 years of marriage?
Yes, changing your name doesn't affect your social security benefits.
I divorced in 2010 and went back to my maiden name. I recently found out that the man whose last name I have (my maiden name) is not my father! Can I go back to my ex husbands name, if he says it's ok and if so how do I go about reversing my name change?
Hi Deborah. You'd have to petition the court to reverse a name change.
My question is from the ex-husband perspective. My ex-wife kept my last name at our divorce, but then quickly remarried and changed to her new husband's last name. She is now getting divorced again, but is going back to my last name, and not her maiden name. Is there any way that this can be prevented?
No, there is none.
Hello, I've been divorced for 8 years, but I'm forced to live with my ex, because of home ownership. I have no children. I did notxask for alimony. He is abusive. I kept his last.name, after the divorce. Now, the relationship has deteriorated so badly, I don't want it any longer. Nor do I want my maiden name, as they are not very nice people and I've been judged in the past…..based on that. Can I just drop my current married last name? And go by my first and middle name? What would the procedure involve? Thank you.
If you're just dropping your married name informally, then there's nothing to do. Otherwise, you'd have to petition the court for a name change.
I was divorced almost 20 years ago. I never took completely took his last name. So I never changed from my maiden name. I have a disabled son with my ex, for his medical and legal purposes, can I use his last name still? Or do I need to stick to my maiden name. I have been married and divorced again. I am still using my maiden name. It would make it easier to use his name when I need to book his appointments, or any other legal stuff. Etc.
Your maiden name would be appropriate, because your ex's is not your legal name.
I was married for 25 years and have been divorced for over 20 years but kept my married name. I am now getting remarried. I would like to use my new husband's last name socially, etc but because of numerous documents, properties, trusts and children with my ex-husband's last name, I would prefer not to have to change all those documents legally. How do I complete the part that asks about new last name?Can I just put my new husband's last name on the application but not change it on any other documents?
Yes, you can put your new husband's last name, even if you don't plan to change it on any documents.
My husband filed a petition for divorce without a lawyer and within the order he states that my name would be changed to my maiden name. He worded it strangely. It says "Father agrees to change name to maiden name Xxxx Xxxxx". We have no children and I'm a woman. I think it's a typo. I do not want to change my name. Big hassle for me. I agree with everything else in the petition. Do I have to file a response to argue just the name change issue? If I just ignor it and keep using my married name will I get in trouble? What might be the repercussions if I don't file a response?
Hi Dena. It doesn't hurt to file a response. It's not binding either way.
I was divorced in 2001. i remarried in 2006. Both Marriages were in NJ. Why is my EX Wifes name on my new marriage certificate. How do I remove it.
That's how the New Jersey certificate of marriage is universally designed. The ex-spouse's name is shown at the bottom of the marriage certificate. It's a public, historical record.
If you're adamant about having it removed, you can try to seek relief through a judge, but it's unlikely to be granted.
Hello, I’ve read through most of these comments but wanted to clarify; after getting a divorce is there a time-limit on changing back to your maiden name? Do you need to do it within a certain amount of time, or can you do it anytime after the divorce?
For reference, I’ve been divorced for 15 years and I did not contest my divorce; I live in NC and am single, I have no children. I have wanted to change my last name for some time but really don’t care for my maiden name either. However, if I could more easily change back to my maiden name rather than go through the hassle of petitioning the court for a “new” name then maybe I would. I hope that makes sense, thanks so much for your advice!
No.
It doesn't matter how long you take.
That's a valid option.
My husband’s ex wife remarried in another state, then divorced husband number two for husband number three and now is separated from husband number three and moved back here. She’s had her maiden name and all three husbands’ names also.
Her divorce from husband number three isn’t even in the works. She claims she needs the divorce decree from her first marriage to get a new drivers license in this state now. Why? I know when you move from state to state, you have to get a new license but why does she need a divorce decree from 25 years ago for a license?
It could simply be because she needs an identity document and any court document is considered valid.
Or perhaps her first divorce decree contained a provision restoring her maiden name and now she wants to return to it.
Or maybe she wants to go back to your husband's surname and will try to use the divorce decree as the avenue to get there.
My ex husband filed a motion to demand i give up his last name. Can i be forced to give it up?
Can i be legally forced to give up my ex last name? He did not care at the time of the divorce but his girlfriend does
Can someone help with some clarity on this idea?
My girlfriend and mother of our child has a last name from her ex whom was very abusive, etc.
I thought it would be respectful to her father for her to go back to the maiden name after proposal so marriage is from her family name and my family name.
She thinks this would be it of work to do. I just do not want to hear that nasty guys last name called out at our wedding.
Is this a ridiculous idea? And is the name changing too much work?
No, it's not ridiculous at all. She'll first have to determine what name combinations are allowed after marriage. She may or may be able to combine your last name with her maiden name.
If the name change combination is allowed, the process is the same as any other marriage-based name changed.
Hi Judy. Your husband can file or request anything, but he can't force you to change your name.
Hi can i ask you a quation I was married and I divorce i haven't change the name now I want to get married again can I marry my new husband with previous husbands name?
Yes, of course.
Hello, difficult question here. Um, I am filing for divorce after 16+ years of marriage, we have been separated for 8 yrs.
The issue is this we found out at year 3 that my husbands last name was not his legal last name. (so all papers were filed on a false and not legal last name) So our 1st child and myself have a hyphenated last name (our daughter was born before we were married so we hyphenated her name and I followed suit when we were married) However we did not know, nor did he that his last name was not his.
I found out when filing to get all of our birth certificates. So 2 questions.
1. Were we ever even legally married?
2. He is now asking me to make it is legal last name in a name change in the divorce.
Can the husband do a name change in the divorce papers?
It is just so confusing and to top it off we have a son, now 13 who has just his dads false last name. (no hyphen his dad refused to hyphen his SONS last name).
I will be obtaining my maiden name and trying to figure out how to change my 20 year old daughters name to my maiden name as well.
Yes.
Yes, if the judge allows it. Within limits.
She'll have to petition the court. You couldn't do it on her behalf.
Hi,
I live in India, I divorced my husband 15 years back.but now I got remarried. I have son from my ex. We use his surname.. Now after remarriage. My son doesn't want to change his surname.. Now when it comes to property matters ..how do we go about it.
Can you please clarify what you're trying to resolve? Are you looking to update names in property records? Yours? Your son's?
How about if in the divorce it says we are going to keep their last name but we decide at a later time that we would like to revert to our maiden name? That's where I currently am with my thought process.
You'll either need to get the court to amend your divorce decree or get a new court ordered name change.
Hi, I was married for 16 years and been divorced for 14 years, and recently decided to change back to my maiden name. I changed my license, ssn, and at work. but after changing my name I feel I lost my identity after 30 years of having my ex-husband's name. I like his name better than mine. I didn't think it was going to bother me emotionally but it has. I loved that man with all my heart but things didn't work out. Can I change my mind and decide to keep my married name again or is it a done deal now. I own a home, which include a mortgage, deed, taxes registered at town hall, and citizenship papers, passport and more that I haven't change. What can I do. I live in NY.
It's a done deal using your divorce decree. At this point, you'll have to get a court to approve your name change.